life experience

For the love of the GAME

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When I was four years old, I began what I thought would just be a hobby.  Playing soccer became my entire life and my identity as a person and I loved it.  It taught me discipline, responsibility, and even gave me friends all around the United States.  I never envisioned my life without it until I had no choice but to quit. When Life Hands you Lemons

In September 2011, I suffered my third and final concussion. At that point, I had played soccer year-round for 15 years.  I had to reinvent myself as a person, find new hobbies and even new friends.  God knew what he was doing.  I transferred schools, met some really cool people and even discovered a hidden artistic talent.  But, the best part is I had the oppurtunity to take my situation and make a change.  I joined in a lawsuit against the NCAA that ultimately changed college sports forever.  I was featured in Cosmopolitan Magazine, had interviews with Fox Sports; I was in articles everywhere. Even with all of this, I still didn't feel as though I had made a difference.  It wasn’t until a week ago that I truly understood the magnitude of what I had accomplished.

Make Lemonade

Last week, I had the opportunity to speak to a group of children as well as their parents about the dangers of concussions.  They were some of the most skilled and talented young athletes I have ever had the chance to witness and it was amazing.  There was nothing like that (a platform to share about the dangers of concussions) when I was a kid growing up but that was when I realized this is what/who we do it for.  Mia Hamm, Julie Foudy and Brandi Chastain were a few of the pioneers of women’s sports. They were the first group of female athletes to fill major stadiums and make a difference.  They endured what they had to in order to make things better and easier for the generations to come.  I’m not comparing myself to them except to point out the fact that things only change when someone has the courage to make it change.  It’s like Newton’s First Law of Motion; “An object at rest, stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion...” I had to speak up for what I believed mattered.  I couldn’t sit back and allow what happened to me to happen to someone else.  In January 2016, the settlement  changed the concussion protocol.  The return-to-play rules following a concussion are now stricter and more clearly defined.  There is a $70 million dollar fund to test for brain trauma; which is available to former, present, and future college athletes.  The biggest difference that I have observed so far is that college athletes will no longer have to worry about losing their scholarships due to the inability to play.

#Blessingsonblessings

There is nothing I would change about what I went through. I am blessed, and thankful that God used me to help make a difference.  At one point, it was one of the worst experiences of my life but He only gives you what you can handle and by His grace, I am here today. I know that I have had the opportunity to do something that will help future generations which now includes my own son and daughter.  That alone; is greater than any reward I could imagine.

20 Things I would tell my 20-Year-Old Self

 “A voice for NFL wives, fiancees and girlfriends while connecting, inspiring, and empowering our audience. We desire to influence our community by changing the conversation.”  It’s refreshing to come across a mission statement like this in a world where people seem to connect more readily over superficial things and values.  LeShonda Martin created WAGS Redefined with the intent for it to be everything that her mission encompasses.  I feel like it’s only appropriate for my first blog post to thank LeShonda for creating a faith-based community for women to connect and also to share a real life example of a connection I made as a result of her efforts. I recently met @CieraLiguori through @NFLWags when we realized we were both in the LA area.  We met for coffee in Santa Monica the other day and spent three hours chatting all things “real.”  Ciera is just beginning the journey through her 20’s while this gal over here is savoring the last year of it :-) It got me thinking about this past decade of my life and some of the things I have learned…and am still continuing to learn.

  • I learned the phrase “Train your Eyes” recently…learn to look at challenges from a different perspective. Be grateful for the things that DON’T go your way…these are the moments you really grow and really get to know yourself.  
  • Time is valuable.  Don’t waste it on trivial things. Be more selfish with your time and give it to those that truly matter.
  • If you hate your job you need to find a new one. A career can take over your soul especially when you get comfortable with a paycheck.  Stop and make sure what you’re doing aligns with your God-given gifts & abilities.
  • You’ll be OK…whatever you're going through, no matter how hard it is, in time you will be OK.
  • Learn to love your body…flaws and all. Eliminate the word diet from your vocabulary. Everything in moderation and drink more water.
  • Learn the art of taking power naps.
  • Change is scary and uncomfortable. Just know that the first step is the hardest.
  • Don’t gossip.        
  • Be patient with your parents…they aren’t getting any younger.
  • Travel every opportunity you get! And do things that scare you. Mine included riding in a helicopter, and zip lining.
  • Volunteer…anything that makes you think outside of yourself.
  • Read more!!! From blogs to books, make this part of your daily routine. (Currently reading: Purpose Driven Life)
  • There’s strength in vulnerability…there’s also a fine line between vulnerable and victim.
  • Spend time alone everyday.
  • BE KIND.